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Behavior During Divine Services

Q: “How should Christians stand in church during services, how should they pray, and what duties do they have when they go to church?”

A: Christians should stand in church with faith, fear of God, and attention. They should force themselves as much as possible to pray without distraction and with feeling of heart. Also, Christians have the following duties: to go regularly to church, for whoever often misses the services, except for the sick, are barred from the Holy Mysteries; to be reconciled with all men and to ask forgiveness of anyone they have hurt; to preserve their purity at least two days before going to church and at least one day after; to come early to the divine services in order to have time to venerate in peace and hear Matins. Every Christian should offer some gift to the Lord according to his ability, even if it is very small, as a sacrifice from the work of his hands. They should give names for commemoration, and ask the priest to take out parts (from the prosphora) for the living and dead members of their families. Christians should stand in church modestly and in good order, the men on the right and the women on the left. They should wear clean and modest clothes, and women should have scarves on their heads. It is forbidden to talk during services without great need. After Divine Liturgy starts, everyone should remain in his place and not move about to venerate the icons. They should follow the Liturgy with pious attention, and listen to the prayers and singing of the choir, the Epistle and Gospel readings, and the sermon. No one should leave the church before the end of the Liturgy without great need. Those who have confessed and prepared for Holy Communion should read the appropriate prayers before Communion in advance, and before they approach the Holy Gifts they should ask forgiveness of all the faithful. After the Liturgy, those who received Communion should read the prayers of thanksgiving, spending that day in spiritual joy and guarding themselves from all temptations. Parents should bring their children to church regularly, taking care that they receive communion of the Body and Blood of Christ. After the end of the divine services, Christians should reverently return to their homes, spending the rest of the day thinking of holy things, reading spiritual books, and visiting the sick. They are also obligated to tell those at home who didnt come to church about what they heard and learned in church from the troparia, readings, and the sermon. These are the most important duties of Christians when they go to church on Sundays and feast days.

Interview with Elder Cleopas (Ilie) of Sihastria Monastery.
From
The Orthodox Word (Vol. 28, No. 1 (162)), pp. 19-20.

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Why do we have our homes blessed?

Orthodox Christians have prayers of blessing for just about everything. From religious articles such as icons and vestments, to things like fields, flowers, barns, and animals. We even bless cars, boats and journeys. It is also our custom to bless our homes each year. Buy why?

Certainly everything that our All-good God created was good—in fact, we are told it was “very good” (Gen. 1:31). But when Adam and Eve were deceived by the devil and rejected God, they were cut off from the source of life and all of creation fell with them into an abyss of sin and corruption. Yet, although we turned from Him, God did not abandon us and when the fullness of the time was come, He sent forth his Only-begotten Son to renew all things.

This renewal is celebrated at the feast of our Lord’s Theophany and the Great Blessing of the Waters on the eve and day of the feast. Throughout these holy days, all of the sacred readings and hymns confess God’s manifestation and real presence in His creation once again. And when the Priest blesses with the Precious and Life-giving Cross calling the Holy Spirit to descend once again upon the waters, the world’s primal element is consecrated anew and the entire cosmos is given back to God once more.

Because our homes, however, cannot be brought to the Church, the Church—through the Priest—brings this “Jordan Water” to our homes. There, the service of blessing, which began in the Church, is finished with the sprinkling of these sanctified waters in our homes. For, just as man’s heart is an arena of spiritual warfare, so also is the home. Knowing this, the Church, as a loving and wise mother, prescribes these annual house blessings in order to help us in our daily struggle by sanctifying our private dwellings and tangibly bringing the grace of God into our lives. “O Christ our God, Who hast appeared and hast enlightened the world, glory be to Thee!”

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Things to remember for house blessings at Theophany

  1. Water BlessingIf possible every member of the family should gather, properly attired, for the Priest’s visit.
  2. At your home altar, or on the dining room table place a clean cloth, a lit candle and a Theophany icon or icon of Christ. You may also have incense prepared and ready if you like. Many people also like to provide a few sprigs of basil, rosemary or other greenery for the sprinkling of the house as well.
  3. Be sure to have a list of the members of your family (Orthodox and non-Orthodox alike) ready for the Priest.
  4. Secure any pets that might jump up on the Priest or get underfoot as you move from room to room (however don’t forget pets may be blessed too!)
  5. Turn off all TVs, radios, computers, etc.
  6. Everyone in the house should gather around the family altar or table when the Priest arrives and join in the chanting of the litany responses and hymns.
  7. The head of the house carries the candle, leading the Priest and the family. Children may carry icons.
  8. At the end of the service, each member of the family comes forward to kiss the Cross while the Priest blesses them with the holy water.

Note: Most parishes have a Lesser Blessing of Water at the beginning of each month. This holy water should be taken home so that the house blessing might be occasionally “renewed” by the family themselves by sprinkling the home on Great Feasts, family celebrations or in times of temptation or after arguments and unpleasantness.

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More on Church Attendance

Don’t be tempted to indulge yourself in not coming to church at the beginning of the service or leaving before it is over. Remember, each service is a complete unit and it can provide its full benefit only in its entirety. Just as food is tasty only when it is fully seasoned, so the service can completely satisfy the spiritual taste only when it is heard in full. Thus, he who misses the beginning or does not remain until the end is laboring, but he deprives himself of the fruit of his labor; he creates with one hand and destroys with the others. Further, one must go to church not inattentively. For, it is always possible that one may go to church not in a way worthy of praise but rather of condemnation, i.e., by going and not receiving any spiritual benefit.

Approaching the church, you must leave every care and worry about your affairs at the threshold in order to enter with a serene mind. Entering the church, you must put on reverence like a garment, remembering to Whom we are coming and to Whom we intend to address our prayers. Having taken your place in the church (best of all, the same place each time), you should gather your thoughts and mentally stand before the face of the omnipresent God, offering Him reverent worship in body and spirit, with a contrite heart and in humble reverence. After this, you must follow, without wandering thoughts, everything that is going on — what is being sung and read in the church — all the way to the end of the service. That is all! In this way, we won’t be bored in church, looking here and there and starting conversations, and we won’t be wishing that the service be over soon. Instead, passing from one prayerful feeling to another and from one reverent thought to the next, we will be like those in a fragrant garden, moving from one group of flowers to another.

~ Saint Theophan the Recluse

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Church Attendance

When the time comes, and especially the time put aside for God and His temple, a Feast Day or the hour of Divine Services, hurry to tear your self away from business and worldly cares and voluntarily and zealously offer yourself to God in His church. When you enter the church bring to mind the promise of the Lord to those that gather in His name: there am I in the midst of them (Matt. 18:20), and stand reverently in church, as before the very face of Christ, and pray to Him that he sanctify you by His holiness, animate you by His prayer, and enlighten you with the word of the Gospel and the Grace of the Mysteries.

Take note of this, too: in the church, Angels serve with us and guard the holiness dwelling there. Once, in the Lavra of Saint Theodosius near Jerusalem, Abba Leontius, coming one Sunday to church to receive the Holy Mysteries, saw an Angel standing on the right side of the Holy Table, and when the elder, being afraid, turned to run to his cell, the voice of the Angel called to him: “From the time this Holy Table was consecrated, I have been charged to stay by it.”

Remember this, beloved, and stand reverently. And, if you feel that only your body is standing in church, while your mind thinks of home, or the market, or a place of merriment, collect yourself. Hurry to bring back your mind that has strayed, join it to God in your heart, force it to strive towards God, Who looks upon you. When you hear the Word of God, open up not only your bodily ears, but your spiritual ones as well, open your heart, receive this heavenly Bread and with it nourish not only your memory, but also your life and work.

~Saint Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow

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The Virtue of Punctuality

The time to arrive for any Divine Service is before it is scheduled to begin. Sadly, it has become the custom of most Orthodox Christians to come to Church late. We are not speaking here, about occasional tardiness due to unforeseen circumstances, but the habitual practice of being late due to a lack of concern for being on time.

Does it really matter? Evidently, not in the mind of many, however not only do we hinder our own spiritual growth by consistently showing up late but, we also disturb our brothers and sisters in Christ who arrived on time and are already prayerfully communing with God. Hence, we should make the effort to arrive a few minutes early not simply to physically prepare ourselves but, more importantly, to shed the worldly baggage we bring with us — to “lay aside the earthly cares” — which, whether we are aware of it or not, has a profound impact on all those around us. Such faithful action not only nourishes our own soul, but sends an important message to our children, visitors and inquirers alike. Think of how odd it appears to visitors who, more often than not, arrive early for Church, and find the place almost empty.

Brothers and sisters, it is absolutely vital that we constantly remind ourselves of the great blessing we’ve been given by God in Holy Orthodoxy! An Orthodox Church is that part of God’s creation, which has been set apart and “reclaimed” for the Kingdom of God. Within its walls the heavenly God dwells and moves; the heavenly and earthly realms meet; Angels assist the Priest during the Divine Liturgy and Saints and members of the Church Triumphant join with the Faithful in the Divine Services. Coming into the Church, we, as it were, leave this world and enter the heavenly realm. Who would want to be late for that?

Given these very significant spiritual realities, beloved, let us begin to approach the Divine Services with a newfound attitude of awe and reverence. Do we not make every effort to be to our jobs and secular appointments on time? How much more effort then, should we make to arrive punctually at our meeting with the heavenly realm?

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Children and the Spiritual Life

—Geronta, if a mother gives holy water to her child and he spits it out, what should she do?

—She should pray for her child. Maybe the way in which she gives the holy water to her child causes a reaction. For the child to be on the path of God the parents must also live right spiritually. Some parents who are religious strive to help their children to become good, not because they are concerned for the salvation of their souls, but because they what to have good children. In other words, they are more worried about what people will say about their child instead of whether they might go to hell. So how can God help? The aim is not for children to go to church through compulsion, but to love the church; not to do good through compulsion, but to feel the need to do good. The holy lives of parents instruct the souls of their children and they naturally follow. In this way they grow up piously, with health of both soul and body and without spiritual injuries. If parents force their children out of fear of God, He helps and the child is benefited. If, however, they do it out of egoism, then God does not help. Children are often troubled because of their parent’s pride. Read more →

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The Spiritual Life of Spouses

—Geronta, when the husband doesn’t live spiritually, what should the wife do?

—Entrust this to Christ and pray that his heart would soften a little. Little by little Christ will descend into his heart and he will begin to be uneasy. As soon as his heart softens a little she can, for example, ask him to drive her to church. She shouldn’t say, “You should come into church too,” but rather, “Could you please take me to church?” If he takes her all the way there, she can then say, “Since we’re here, let’s go inside a minute and light a candle.” In this way, little by little, perhaps he will go a little further.

—Geronta, is the spiritual father of the wife able also to help the husband in some way? Read more →

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The Practice of Virtue Within the Family

— Geronta, how can a husband become practiced in the virtues?

— God will give him opportunities. Many men, however, after asking God to give them opportunities to practice the virtues, grumble when they are faced with a certain difficulty. For example, sometimes the Good God, in His boundless love, and in order to provide practice in humility and patience, will take away his Grace from the wife, and she will begin acting outlandishly and treating the husband inconsiderately. Then the husband should not complain, but rather rejoice and thank God for the opportunity to struggle which He has given him. Or, a mother asks God to grant her patience. Her little child then comes in, and as soon as she has the table set for dinner, he pulls on the table cloth and everything spills on the floor. At such times it’s as if the child is saying to his mother: “Mama, be patient!” Read more →

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Spiritual Life is the Basic Prerequisite for a Good Future

—Geronta, the girl who said to you that she is considering Monasticism told me that a boy from class asked why she won’t go out to the movies or out on dates with boys. What should she have answered?

—She should have said: “Not even my brother has ever asked me such questions, and now you are?”

—A few days later the boy found her outside of school—she hadn’t seen him—and he went to take her arm. She only said “hello” and immediately went inside.

—No, that’s not good! In such a position she should have reacted, because as things went, she may have given him the impression that she is fine with this show of affection and now he’ll do it again. The age she’s at now is a little difficult and its not good for her to keep company with boys. It is not even necessary for her to speak with them, unless perhaps they need help. If she decides to get married, when she meets a nice guy, she should tell her parents about it. They will evaluate whether the right prerequisites for starting a good family are there. For now, as she still hasn’t decided which life she will follow, speaking with boys won’t help; she’ll just get dizzy for nothing and loose her peace. Those kids who do such things are extremely miserable souls, flighty and constantly troubled; they have no peace. Their face and eyes are wild. Read more →

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